“No matter how your children do, you need to show unconditional love and support. Not all students do go to university and they will shine where their passions and talents lie.”
This is an evergreen reminder shared in a Facebook post by Zappyolks in 2016 but it continues to spread on the internet as a subtle reminder to parents with regards to their children’s education.
According to Zappyolks’ post, “A school principal in Singapore sent this letter to the parents before the exams.”
The exams of your children are to start soon. I know you are all really anxious for your child to do well.
But, please do remember, amongst the students who will be sitting for the exams there ls an artist, who doesn’t need to understand Math.
There is an entrepreneur, who doesn’t care about History or English literature.
There is a musician, whose Chemistry marks won’t matter. There’s an athlete… whose physical fitness is more important than Physics.
If your child does get top marks, that’s great! But if he or she doesn’t… please don’t take away their self-confidence and dignity from them. Tell them it’s OK, It’s just an exam! They are cut out for much bigger things in life. Tell them, no matter what they score, you love them and will not Judge them.
Please do this. and when you do…watch your children conquer the world. One exam or a low mark won’t take away their dreams and talent. And please, do not think that doctors and engineers are the only happy peeple in the world.”
The post of Zappyolks has earned moe thn 3,600 comments and 552K reactions. It has been shared over 138,000 times! Its strong message touches parents and children alike; with some kids tagging their parents.
Indeed, exams shouldn’t be the basis to like or love our children. While a few questioned whether the letter truly came from a school principal in Singapore, many others find the source irrelevant as it is the strong message which should be the focus.
A netizen, Marie O. aptly commented: “who cares which school it came from….if it is from a principal or not…..focus on the message and think of whether you are actually winning in life or just “whining” about your own life……not winning…..really…….who cares….winning is not everything! Living your life being proud of your own 100% and being a better human being is the goal i wish for every child out there!
Asish KD, meanwhile, “I fully agree. We should allow the children to grow and not pressurise them to grow as we want.”
Netizen ML Schaefer shared an inspiring story related to the message of the letter.
She narrated: “My brother in law failed at everything. He had trouble reading and writing. Writing, he still can’t. His parents had no idea what to do? When he had to leave school, they discovered, he really liked typewriters. Taking them apart and fixing them. He got a job with Olivetti. Then computers came in. He quickly figured out how they worked, and shot up the ladder. He is now one of very few at the top of Siemens. He earns mega bucks, I mean huge amounts of money. When he writes a letter, it is still full of mistakes, he doesn’t care. He has several secretaries. His way to success was “confidence”, he never worried about failing, he went out to get things, and that he did.”
If you want to know about the eight types of intelligence, try and check the book authored by Harvard University neuropsychologist and educator Howard Gardner — Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences.
According to Gardner, each child evolves with his or her own needs; such that a child who does not show interest in language, for example, might have great ability in the field of mathematics and spatial intelligence.